Coming Home To Your True Nature
Remembering What Has Always Been Within
There comes a point in many women’s lives when something begins to shift.
It isn’t always dramatic. Often, it arrives quietly.
Perhaps the children have grown more independent. A career that once felt deeply meaningful no longer fits in quite the same way. A relationship changes, our bodies begin moving through the natural transitions of midlife, or life simply becomes so full of responsibilities and constant doing that one day we pause and notice something we haven’t allowed ourselves to acknowledge before.
I don’t quite feel like myself anymore.
Over the years, I’ve heard many women express this in different ways.
“I feel lost.”
“Something feels missing.”
“I don’t really know who I am anymore.”
If I’m honest, they are words I have quietly spoken to myself too.
Not because I believed I needed to be someone different, but because life has a way of drawing our attention outwards until we gradually lose touch with the quieter part of ourselves beneath all the roles we play.
Looking back now, I can see that many of the most significant choices I’ve made were never carefully planned. Leaving my corporate career, moving to India, immersing myself in the wisdom of yoga and Ayurveda, and eventually returning to the UK all unfolded through quietly following my intuition. One gentle step led to another, often long before I could understand where the path was leading.
Like many people, I assumed I was simply changing the direction of my life. Only later did I realise that something much deeper was taking place. I wasn’t searching for a new career or a different lifestyle. I was searching for a deeper sense of connection. And although I couldn’t have articulated it at the time, what I was really seeking was a way back to myself.
Today, I see this same longing in many of the women I work alongside. It often emerges during times of transition, when the identities that have shaped us for years begin to soften and life quietly asks a different question. Not simply, “What should I do next?” but, “Who am I beneath everything that I do?”
For thousands of years, this has been one of humanity’s deepest spiritual enquiries.
Not because there is something wrong with us, or because we need fixing, but because somewhere beneath the noise of everyday life lives a quiet longing to remember what has always been true.
For me, this is what “coming home” has gradually come to mean. Not returning to a previous version of ourselves. Not striving to become someone new. But gently rediscovering the deeper essence of who we have always been.
Living in Our Heads
As I look back now, I can see that my own journey home didn’t begin with meditation or yoga. It began much earlier, at a time when I didn’t even realise I had become disconnected from myself.
Like so many people, I was caught up in the pace of modern life. Working in a demanding corporate environment, I spent much of my time thinking, planning, solving problems and anticipating what needed to happen next. On the surface, I appeared to be coping well. I was achieving, progressing in my career and doing everything I believed was expected of me. Yet beneath that outward appearance, my nervous system was rarely given the opportunity to rest.
Even when I left work at the end of the day, my mind didn’t switch off. I was constantly analysing, replaying conversations, planning ahead and carrying the weight of responsibility. Looking back, I don’t think I realised how disconnected I had become from my own body. I was living almost entirely in my head.
It is a pattern I now recognise in many of the women I work with. We become so accustomed to functioning in a state of constant alertness that it begins to feel normal. We tell ourselves that everyone is busy, that stress is simply part of life and that we just need to keep going. In many ways, our culture rewards this way of living. Productivity is often celebrated, while rest is seen as something we have to earn.
The human nervous system, however, was never designed to remain in this heightened state indefinitely. Our fight or flight response is an extraordinary survival mechanism. It prepares us to respond quickly when we are faced with danger, temporarily directing our energy towards keeping us safe. The difficulty is that the challenges we experience today are rarely short-lived. Instead of running from a predator, we find ourselves responding to an endless stream of emails, deadlines, financial pressures, family responsibilities and the constant stimulation of modern life.
Gradually, the body begins to adapt to living in this state of vigilance. We become so familiar with feeling ‘busy but coping’ that we often fail to recognise the signs that our system is becoming overwhelmed.
For me, those signs appeared as constant anxiety, panic attacks and persistent digestive problems, including IBS. At the time, I saw each symptom as something separate that needed fixing. It never occurred to me that my body might be trying to communicate something much deeper.
In hindsight, I realise that my body had been quietly asking for my attention for a long time. I simply hadn’t learned how to listen.
When our nervous system remains in survival mode for prolonged periods, we naturally become less aware of the subtle signals our body is continually offering us. We override tiredness because there is still work to do. We ignore tension because we are too busy to stop. We dismiss our intuition because logic feels more reliable. Over time, many people begin to feel strangely disconnected, not only from their bodies but also from their emotions, their inner wisdom and, ultimately, from themselves.
This disconnection is not a personal failure, nor is it a sign that something is wrong with us. It is often the understandable response of a nervous system that has been working tirelessly to keep us safe.
Recognising this was one of the greatest turning points in my own life, because it shifted my perspective completely. Instead of seeing my body as something that was letting me down, I began to understand that it had been doing its very best to protect me. Rather than needing to fight against it, I needed to learn how to work with it. That realisation became the beginning of a very different relationship with myself.
The Wisdom of The Body
When I first began meditating, I wasn’t searching for a spiritual path.
If I’m honest, I simply wanted some relief. I wanted to feel calmer and less stressed. I wanted the constant noise in my mind to quieten, and I wanted to understand why I no longer felt at ease within myself.
What surprised me was that the greatest changes didn’t happen because I thought differently. They happened because, for the first time in years, I began to slow down enough to experience myself differently.
As my meditation practice deepened, I noticed moments of stillness that felt unfamiliar at first. My mind gradually became quieter, my breathing softened and, little by little, I became more aware of my body. I began to notice where I was holding tension, how often I rushed through my days and how disconnected I had become from my own needs.
It was more like watching a landscape slowly emerge as the morning mist begins to lift.
This, I now believe, is something we often overlook.
“We don’t think our way home. We feel our way there.”
We spend so much of our lives trying to think our way through our problems. We analyse, plan, worry and search for answers, believing that if only we could understand ourselves more clearly, everything else would fall into place.
Yet some of life’s deepest transformations do not happen through thinking alone.
They happen through presence. Through learning to inhabit our bodies again. Through becoming aware of the breath that has been with us all along. Through creating enough stillness to notice what we have been unable to hear amidst the noise.
This is why I believe ancient practices such as meditation, yoga and conscious breathing remain so relevant today. They gently interrupt the momentum of constant doing and invite us back into direct experience.
They remind us that we are embodied beings. We experience life through our bodies, our senses and our hearts. It is through the body that we experience love, grief, beauty, joy, loss and wonder. It is also through the body that we begin to reconnect with the quieter, deeper presence that has always existed beneath the surface of our busy lives.
For me, this was the beginning of understanding that healing is not simply about fixing symptoms or changing circumstances. It is about restoring relationship – A relationship with our bodies, our breath, with the present moment, and, ultimately, a relationship with the deepest part of ourselves.
Healing begins the moment we stop asking, “What is wrong with me?” and begin asking, “What has my body been trying to tell me?”
Ancient Wisdom Has Always Known This
One of the things that has fascinated me most throughout my own journey is how closely modern science and ancient wisdom seem to converge. They may use different language and describe the human experience in different ways, yet they often point towards the same fundamental truth: our wellbeing cannot be separated into neat compartments. Our physical health, our emotional world, our thoughts and our deeper sense of self are intimately connected.
As my own relationship with meditation deepened, I found myself naturally becoming curious about the wider philosophy that surrounded it. This curiosity gradually led me towards yoga and, later, Ayurveda. I wasn’t searching for another qualification or another modality to add to my work. Rather, I was trying to understand why these practices had brought about such a profound shift in the way I experienced both myself and the world around me.
What I discovered was not simply a collection of techniques, but an entirely different way of understanding what it means to be human.
In the West, we often approach health by treating the body, the mind and our emotions as though they are separate. Ancient yogic philosophy offers a much more integrated perspective. It recognises that every aspect of our being and influences the others and that true wellbeing arises when we begin living in harmony with our whole nature and environment.
This understanding resonated deeply with me because it reflected my own experience. As my mind became quieter through meditation, my body also began to change. Without forcing myself or following a strict set of rules, I naturally became drawn towards food that felt more nourishing. I stopped drinking alcohol. I became vegetarian. Spending time in nature no longer felt like a luxury but something I genuinely needed. Even my relationship with movement changed. Rather than exercising to achieve something, I found myself wanting to move because it simply felt good to inhabit my body again, and how it left me feeling afterwards.
Looking back, I can see that none of these changes came through discipline alone. They emerged naturally as I became more connected with myself. This is something I often reassure clients about. Lasting transformation rarely comes from criticising ourselves into change. It grows from awareness. As our awareness deepens, the choices that truly nourish us often begin to feel less like effort and more like a natural expression of who we are becoming.
For me, this understanding also transformed the way I viewed my own body.
For many years I had treated it as something that simply carried me through life; something to push harder, criticise when it fell short of my expectations and ignore when it whispered that it needed rest.
Gradually, I began to see it differently, as the sacred vessel through which I experience this extraordinary human life.
This is what the phrase ‘the body as a temple’ has come to mean for me. It has nothing to do with perfection, appearance or performance.
A temple is not valued because it is flawless, nor simply because of what it contains. It is a sacred space, intentionally created to help us quieten the mind, open the heart and experience something greater than ourselves. In many ways, I have come to see the body in the same light. It is through this extraordinary human body that we experience love and loss, beauty and wonder, stillness and joy. When we begin to care for it with reverence and learn to listen to its quiet wisdom, it gradually becomes more than something we inhabit.
Over the years, the phrase “the body as a temple” has taken on an ever-deepening meaning for me. It is not about striving for physical perfection or placing the body above everything else. Rather, it is about recognising the body as a sacred gift – the place through which we experience this human life and the doorway through which we gradually reconnect with our deeper nature. Just as a temple is designed to draw our awareness beyond the distractions of the outer world towards the stillness of its inner sanctuary, our bodies, when cared for with presence and reverence, gently lead us back towards the quiet essence that has always been waiting within.
Returning to Our True Nature
As I continued walking this path, I began to realise that the practices themselves were never the destination.
Meditation, yoga, Ayurveda, time in nature and the many other approaches that have supported me over the years have all been wonderful teachers. Yet none of them asked me to become someone different. Instead, each one gently invited me to let go of another layer of noise, another layer of conditioning and another layer of striving, allowing me to experience life with greater clarity and presence.
It was only then that I truly began to understand one of the oldest questions in yoga:
Who am I?
At first glance, it seems like a philosophical question, yet I have come to feel it is one of the most practical questions we can ever ask ourselves.
So much of our identity becomes wrapped up in the roles we play, the work we do, the expectations we carry and the stories we have come to believe about ourselves. These are all important parts of our human experience, yet they are continually changing. Relationships evolve. Careers change. Our children grow up. Our bodies age. Life constantly asks us to let go of old identities and discover new ways of being.
Yet beneath all of those changing experiences, there is something that remains constant.
Across many wisdom traditions, this has been described as our true nature, our soul or our higher Self. While different traditions use different language, they all point towards the same experience: beneath the activity of the mind and the changing circumstances of life exists a quieter, deeper presence that has never been lost.
For me, this understanding didn’t arrive as an intellectual idea. It emerged gradually through experience. There were moments in meditation when the constant stream of thoughts became quiet, moments walking in nature when I felt an overwhelming sense of peace, and moments of stillness when the usual sense of separation softened and I experienced a profound feeling of connection – not only with myself, but with life itself.
Experiences such as these are difficult to describe because they are felt far more deeply than they can ever be explained. Yet they gently transformed the way I understood wellbeing.
I no longer saw it as the absence of illness or the ability to cope with life’s demands. Instead, I began to recognise wellbeing as the quality of relationship I have with myself, with my body and with the deeper essence that quietly lives within us all.
This understanding has also transformed the way I work with others. While every person arrives with their own unique story, beneath the surface I often encounter the same quiet longing: to feel at peace, to feel whole and to experience a deeper sense of belonging.
This is why I no longer see healing as a process of fixing what is broken. Instead, I see it as gently clearing away the layers that have obscured our true nature, allowing us to reconnect with the wisdom, peace and wholeness that have always been there.
For me, this is the essence of remembering. Not returning to the person we once were, but reconnecting with the timeless essence that has quietly accompanied us through every season of our lives.
As that connection deepens, something else begins to shift. We naturally become more compassionate towards ourselves. We begin to trust our intuition a little more. Our choices become less driven by fear and more guided by inner wisdom. We find ourselves seeking less from the outside world because we begin to discover a quieter sense of contentment within.
This is not about withdrawing from life. Quite the opposite. It allows us to participate in life more fully, bringing greater presence to our relationships, our work, our families and the way we care for the world around us. Because when we begin to recognise this deeper essence within ourselves, we also begin to recognise it within one another. And from that recognition grows a profound sense of connection – not only with ourselves, but with life itself.
Embodying Our True Nature
As I have come to understand these teachings more deeply, I have realised that they are not asking us to withdraw from the world or to escape the realities of everyday life. On the contrary, they invite us to become more fully present within it.
The practices of yoga, meditation and Ayurveda are not separate from life; they become woven into the way we live. They shape how we begin our mornings, how we nourish our bodies, how we respond to challenges, how we care for our relationships and how we move through the changing seasons of the year. Gradually, they become less about what we do and more about how we choose to live.
For me, this has never been about striving for an ideal lifestyle or trying to become a more spiritual person. Like anyone else, I continue to experience life’s joys and challenges, periods of clarity and moments of uncertainty. The difference is that I now have practices that gently help me return to myself whenever life begins to pull me away from that deeper sense of connection.
Over the years, I have come to understand that this journey is not about perfection. It is about cultivating awareness, learning to listen more closely and trusting that our inner wisdom becomes easier to hear when we create space for stillness.
As this understanding becomes woven into everyday life, it naturally begins to shape the way we live. We become more present in our relationships, more attuned to the rhythms of nature and more aware of the small choices that either nourish or deplete us. Meditation, yoga and Ayurveda are no longer simply practices we do; they become companions that gently guide us back whenever life pulls us away from ourselves.
This is why I believe these ancient teachings remain so relevant today. In a world that constantly encourages us to seek fulfilment outside ourselves, they quietly invite us to slow down, listen deeply and remember what truly matters.
Sri Ramana Maharshi beautifully expressed this when he said:
“Your own Self-realisation is the greatest service you can render the world.”
For me, this captures the essence of the journey. It is not about becoming someone better or endlessly trying to fix ourselves. It is about reconnecting with the timeless essence that has always existed beneath the noise of everyday life.
For me, that is what it means to reconnect with our true nature.
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